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Philippians 4:1

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therefore my beloved brethren

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whom I long to see

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my joy and crown

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in this way stand firm

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in the LORD, my beloved

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I was shocked when I first read that

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where Paul says

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you are my joy and crown

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that's what he says

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to the Philippians

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I would have thought

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that Paul would say

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Yeshua is my joy and my crown

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but he didn't say that

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he said to the people

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you are my joy and crown

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a people that he was called

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to minister to

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and you know what

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here's the word for today

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make people your joy

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and your crown

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make it your business

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to serve people

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don't serve money

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don't serve an organization

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don't serve a project

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don't serve a business

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don't serve things

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serve people

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every one of us were called

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to serve people

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that's why God put us

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on planet earth

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He put us here to serve other people

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do you know when you stop

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serving people, that's really

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when you die

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I was interested to find out

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there's no Hebrew word for retirement

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what does that mean?

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not that we're supposed

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to work endlessly

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what it means is this

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we were created to serve people

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the day you stop serving people you die

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now obviously you're going to serve

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at 85 years old in a different way

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than you serve when you're 45 years old

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but never stop serving people

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never stop loving people

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never stop using the gifts

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that God gave you

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the money that God gave you

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the life that God gave you

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to serve other people

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so make people your joy

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and your crown

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don't make people your frustration

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you know why it is that

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a lot of times people are frustrated

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with other people

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we're talking as we go along here

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five things that create stress

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and frustration in people's lives

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here's number 2

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here's the second thing that really

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creates a lot of stress

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and frustration and that is

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trying to change people

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do you know it's not your job

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to change your kids

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that's God's job

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here's the most amazing thing

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do you know what some Christian wives

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think that there job description is

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I've had people actually tell me this

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some Christian wives think

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their job is to change their husband

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into the man of God

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he's supposed to be

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do you know what

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that's not your job

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that's the job of the Holy Spirit

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if you're trying to change

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your husband all the time

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you're going to be frustrated everyday

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if you're trying to change

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your wife all the time

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you're going to be frustrated everyday

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make people around you, your joy

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and your crown

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what does that mean? that means

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focus on the good things in their lives

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focus on the things that they do right

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who do you tell about

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all the things they do wrong

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don't tell your husband

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all the things he does wrong

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don't tell your wife

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all the things she does wrong

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tell God those things

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he's able to change them

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you're not

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so make people your joy and your crown

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don't try to change people

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just bless people around you

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God will change them

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so trying to change people

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that creates lots of tension

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lots of frustration

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it's not your job

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it's God's job

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and I'll tell you what your job...

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if you're a wife

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your job is to fill

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your husband with respect

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that's what Ephesians 5:33

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I say fill up his fuel tank

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with respect

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if you're a husband

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your job is to fill the

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fuel tank of your wife

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with love

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fill your children's fuel tank

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with love

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your job is not to change

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everybody around you

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so again Paul said

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my beloved brethren

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whom I long to see

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my joy and my crown

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make your family your joy

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and your crown

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make the people that you

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employ your joy and your crown

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make the people that you

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serve in your congregation

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your joy and your crown

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if you do that

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and you let God change them

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you bless them

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you'll walk through life

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with a lot of joy

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if you try to change them all the time

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you'll walk through life

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with a lot of frustration

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so today let people

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around you be your joy

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and your crown

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God bless you